How Do I Find Out If Someone Is Married While Having Fun
Dishonest lovers early warning system
Don't you just love meeting new people and falling in love? There simply isn't anything else like it for raising your spirits and making the most of your life. Unfortunately a small proportion of new lovers can become a problem when you find out the truth about them. Surprising numbers of these end up in violent and tragic relationships. More common are the people who cheat on their spouses and hide the fact from you. These people can also cause you a lot of problems. So how do I find out if someone is married and other truths about the people that you meet?
With a little planning and common sense you can find out if he is married or has a long term partner. You can also find out if he or she is a drug addict, an ex-convict or has active arrest warrants. Above all you can find out if he is lying to you and the best thing about this method is that it can be fun to do.
Find out if he is married by asking him
First dates should be fun times where you learn about each other so it makes a lot of sense to start a little investigation going while you have the perfect time to do it.
What you will be doing by talking is collecting information. Anything might be useful from his date of birth to his mothers maiden name. From his school and college qualifications to his ex girlfriends. Oh and don't forget to ask him if he's married or not.
Don't be afraid to ask the "are you married?" question. You need to learn about any spouses, partners or other lovers because the risks are too great to ignore it. You might not want to think about it but you can't ignore the threat of AIDs and other problems, it just isn't worth it.
Gather your information while enjoying yourself
No matter what you are told, even if he comes clean about being married, don't stop asking questions and putting together his background. Get information that you can verify like where he works, where he lives and his telephone number.
The best way to collect your information is during your long, intimate phone calls. You can ask just about anything you want on those calls and it's easy to record it on paper at the same time without your lover suspecting a thing. Dinner and drinks are also good for loosening the tongue but write it down quickly when you are apart.
Use the information that you collect
Now that you have all this information about your newest love, what do you do with it? You need to verify as much of it as you can. Only when you have done that and found no lies, can you afford to place your trust in this person.
Phone around the colleges, schools and workplaces that your boyfriend has told you about. Talk to his friends and even his ex's to find out what he's really like.
Do an online background check and look for marriage records
In addition to calling the obvious places to verify qualifications and employer and other things you can look up marriage records by doing an online background check. You can also look up any criminal records or arrest records too.
I like to get online to check out people as soon as I can. Not only because I want to verify what I've been told but I find that I can have a lot of fun finding out stuff about someone. Finding out if someone is married can be a very enjoyable activity.
You should do the background check as early as you can so that you can decide to either walk away before getting too involved or continue to have the best time with your new love in the knowledge that you haven't been lied to.